Mediation is an alternative approach to negotiating an agreement of issues to be resolved in a dispute or family conflict such as divorce or estrangement. Certain principal features of mediation distinguish it in important ways from the historically familiar adversarial approach. For example:

• It is a voluntary, confidential process controlled by the parties involved.

• Fairness and self-determination are inherent in the process.

• It involves a series of sessions (1 to 2 hours each) where the parties involved are guided and assisted in arriving at a mutually accept-able agreement.

 

Sessions are limited to only the number necessary for the resolution of issues. Although total time involved depends on circumstances, it is typically within the range of 2 to 6 sessions.

• It is a process which can accomplish the negotiations required to arrive at a final settlement in an uncontested divorce. The result is a "memorandum of understanding" which documents the terms of your agreement. If desired, you are free to use an attorney's services for review of this document. South Suburban Mediation recommends this and will happily provide attorney referrals for this or other related purposes on request.
  

     The process requires only that parties be willing to participate and negotiate in good faith. The many benefits can include the following:

• To focus the dialogue only on relevant issues.

• To assure mutual acceptance and satisfaction.
  
  
• To minimize the costs and emotional strains.
  
  
• To better protect the well-being of children or other family members throughout the process, minimizing disruption to their lives.
  
  
• To experience and learn an approach to conflict resolution which can be useful in dealing with any future differences.

     A mediator will guide and assist you in identifying and resolving relevant issues for negotiation and settlement.

• The focus is kept on the issues of importance, as the basis for agreement is explored, clarified, and drafted.
  
  
• Mediation is neither therapy nor legal counsel. However, the relevance of feelings and emotions is not ignored and you may be provided with information on applicable laws.
  
  
• Your control is encouraged as you are guided to an agreement customized to your particular circumstances.

• During mediation, and as desired, you will be offered appropriate referrals to providers of any special related services. For example, advice or assistance with financial matters, legal matters, personal or family counseling, etc. Such specialists are welcome in a collaborative effort to resolve issues related to their fields of expertise.
  
  
• Upon completion of the "memorandum of agreement" which sets forth the terms of settlement, you are free to have it reviewed by an attorney of your choice. It will provide the basis for the separation agreement included in a courts divorce decree.
  
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  If desired, prior to starting mediation, a brief informational interview can be arranged without obligation. (Click "Free Interview" above.)